A pelvic floor problem, such as pelvic pain, can stop you from embracing your sexuality and can cause a heavy strain on intimate relationships. The sexual positions that you perform can actually worsen the problem rather than boosting your relationship.
Do not fear, this doesn’t mean you need to dig a grave for your sex life! The team at Kegel8 have compiled a comprehensive list of the most comfortable and exciting sex positions for those who suffer from pelvic pain:
Pain, spasms, bladder weaknesses and a pelvic floor that is not very coordinated can affect sexual function.
- For Pain – If you suffer from pelvic pain you should avoid the Missionary position as it can cause the uterus to be tilted at an angle that can hurt.
- For Pleasure – Try Spooning or Girl on Top with several pillows placed on your partners thighs to help manage the depth of penetration.
Painful Bladder Syndrome or Interstitial Cystitis
Conditions that affect how the bladder functions, its nerves, and the involvement of pelvic floor muscles can cause discomfort in some sexual positions.
- For Pain – Avoid Missionary and the Doggy position as these can jostle the bladder, causing discomfort.
- For Pleasure – Try a modified missionary position with a couple of pillows underneath you. If your pelvis is high, your bladder and uterus will reposition themselves, helping to improve comfort. This is also effective with a modified spooning position on the side.
Vaginal Dryness and Atrophy
Around 17% of women aged 18-50 experience problems with vaginal dryness during sex, even before menopause. This can cause some pain and discomfort during almost any position in sexual intercourse and may even take a toll on your relationship.
To transform the Sahara into the Amazon, try using an organic, water-based lubricant to bring ease and comfort into your sex life. Kegel8's natural Miracle Balm uses honey, bees wax and olive oil in a natural formulation that is pH balanced with no hormone disruptors. Check out these Top Lubricants from Kegel8. Look for one that is pH balanced and non-irritating and kind to your skin. You might also want to consider trying vaginal pessaries from Gyntima - they are deeply moisturising for vaginal atrophy. Don’t feel embarrassed to visit your GP either, there are a variety of treatments on offer for dryness; a topical oestrogen cream (available on prescription) might be just what you need to plump the delicate tissues and restore some natural lubrication.
How Can You Improve Your Sex Life?
There are 101 ways by which you can increase the excitement in the bedroom, ranging from natural solutions to electronic treatments. Kegel8 have compiled a list of our top picks for improving your sex life when suffering from pelvic problems:
- Kegel! – As we age we often think it’s inevitable that our vagina will lose all its suppleness that it once had in youth and impact on our sexual lives. But this is a myth! There are things that you can do to improve the situation. Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles is a guaranteed way to reinvigorate your sex life; a stronger pelvic floor can increase the sensation for both you and your partner. Use Kegel8’s Ultra 20 Electronic Pelvic Toner to effectively amplify your sex life today!
- Vaginal Dilators - Coming in a set of different girths, wearable vaginal dilator set in body friendly silicone can encourage your muscles to relax in your own time preventing them from being too tight and causing pelvic pain.
- Lube up – Using an organic, water-based lubricant sometimes becomes essential as we grow older. But don’t feel like you have lost a part of your allure if you need to buy some; if anything, you’re preserving your sexual life. Try a intimate lubricant from our range and look for one that is hormone free and body friendly.
- Talk it out – Communication is key when it comes to satisfying sex. Let your partner know which positions aren’t working for you, and which positions really get you going.
- Adapt and achieve – The Kamasutra isn’t set in stone. Move around when you are trying out different positions, you never know which angle will bring you the most comfort and pleasure.
Kegel8 for Pelvic Pain - Physio Amanda Savage has a programme for you.
Top Physiotherapist Amanda Savage has devised a 12 Week condition guide for Pelvic Pain (included FREE with every Kegel8 Ultra 20). Amanda say's 'If you're suffering from pelvic pain or anal or vaginal discomfort (including tightness and endometriosis) using an eStim device like the Kegel8 Ultra 20 v2 can bring you relief. An eStim device can be used with different settings to achieve different goals. You can use a programme to practise awareness of both conracting and relaxing the pelvic floor muscles. Stimulation can also be used to activate helpful chemical reactions in the brain, which help to reduce pelvic pain'.
What If You Still Experience Pain During Sex?
It’s very important for you to be careful in the bedroom. Bursts of excitement may seem sensual at first, but they could easily worsen any pelvic problem if not performed carefully. If you are suffering from pelvic pain during sex, read our article page for more information.
Don’t ignore your pain signals if they persist, visit your GP for further diagnosis and treatment.
Reviews for the Kegel8 Ultra 20 Electronic Pelvic Toner
Tracy - Why Not?!
"I went to the docs with what I thought was a urine infection. I was given a course of antibiotics but it didn’t help. It became apparent that I had a slight to moderate prolapse and this is was causing the burning pain and “ bulging” feeling.
I was given exercises to do, but sadly these caused more pain. I saw a Kegel8 advert in a mag and thought “ why not ? “. That was about 4 weeks ago. I am almost pain free....which was my main issue. I can go on long walks again without discomfort. It’s also good not to need the loo so much too. I will carry on with my Kegel8 for 12 weeks and I am hoping to be completely pain free. I would really recommend this little gem. Thank you.”
Jackie - Amazing!
"I have had a very overactive bladder for 20+ years but 8 years ago began to have terrible pain in my bladder and couldn’t work or leave the house. After numerous antibiotics and investigations for Interstitial Cystitis I was finally diagnosed with OAB. I never new something that sounds so harmless could be so debilitating.
I saw the Kegel8 advertised on TV and after some deliberation due to the cost I took the plunge and ordered one! After 6 days of using this I can notice the difference already and my pelvic floor is soooo much stronger and my OAB is much calmer. I have now stopped my medication which I absolutely loathed taking!! I will be consistent forever with this device as I know for sure that the benefits will only get better for me. I would advise anyone to try this and see for themselves. Money well spent!!! I’m 49 and have had 2 children which I’m sure exacerbated my already niggly bladder. Do it for yourself."
 Jha, S., Strelley, K., & Radley, S. (2012, January 12). Incontinence during intercourse: Myths unravelled [Abstract]. International Urogynaecology Journal, 23(5), pp. 633-637.
 NAFC (2018) The Best Sex Positions If You Have Incontinence or Pelvic Organ Prolapse [online]. National Association for Continence [viewed 20/09/2018]. Available from https://www.nafc.org/bhealth-blog/the-best-sex-positions-if-you-have-incontinence-or-pelvic-organ-prolapse